Growing up Chinese-American, I often get questions from many newly immigrated Chinese parents about my experience growing up in America. These include, but are not limited to:

  • How important is it to go to a good college?

  • What was your experience going to a competitive public school?

  • What did you like about how your parents raised you? What did you dislike?

  • How do I talk to my child about issues surrounding race and gender?

  • Should I be worried if my child is on social media a lot?

  • What do I do if my child is playing too many video games?

Parenting ABCs is a collection of stories from now-adult Chinese-Americans about these questions, with the goal of helping the next generation of Chinese parents navigate their relationship with their young children.

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由于我abc的背景，经常有很多新移民的中国家长问我在美国长大的经历。这些问题包含但不限于:

  • 上一个好大学有多重要?

  • 在一个竞争激烈的公立学校读书是什么一种体验?

  • 你喜欢/不喜欢 哪些你父母养育你的方式?

  • 如果我孩子沉溺于社交网络 我该担忧吗?

  • 我该如何和我的孩子讨论种族和性别议题?

  • 如果我的孩子玩太多电子游戏怎么办?

  • 如何帮我我的孩子理解作为abc的身份认同?

Parenting ABCs 是一系列已经长大成人的abc关于这些问题的故事，来帮助下一代新移民中国家长来处理和孩子的关系以及理解他们的经历

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Behind the project

Hi, my name is Cat. I’m Chinese-American, born in Pennsylvania, and have been living in Silicon Valley since age 5. I spent much of my childhood in Cupertino, and attended Eaton Elementary, Miller Middle, and Lynbrook High School. I attended Stanford for college, and until recently, was working as a product manager at LinkedIn.During those times, I was lucky to be surrounded by many other Asian Americans who I could relate to. We loved drinking boba, talking about k-pop stars, and griping about Chinese school on the weekend.At the same time, academics at school were competitive, and the environment was stressful. My parents had immigrated from China so that my dad could do his postdoc after graduating from Tsinghua. They saw education as the key to a good life, bought an expensive house near good public schools, and dedicated themselves to ensuring my academic success.However, my experience growing up in America was more complicated than my parents anticipated. For one, the American education system wasn’t focused solely on grades and performance; your personality, identity, and interests mattered. I found myself asking questions such as “What am I passionate about?” “What are my values and beliefs?” “What’s my stance on XYZ issues in the world?”These questions were often difficult to discuss with my parents, let alone get them to understand my perspective. We spoke different languages, harbored different values, and had different upbringings. These intergenerational and cross-cultural differences put a strain on our relationship, and I often chose to exclude my parents from many details of my life.Now, as an adult, I recognize how meaningful it is for my parents when I share what I’m doing or thinking, and for me to receive their support. For the past few years, I’ve been working to build a stronger relationship with my parents. My goal now is to help other families do the same.